Most likely you’ve met a person that brags on himself. He’s working to change your perception of him, to see him in a better light or persuade a self-promoter. It can be exciting to say, “Hey, look at me! See what I can do.” But sooner or later others get tired of it. We are all special to God, and we all have value, worth and a part in His plan.
Love does not parade itself; it is not puffed up.
When we’re little we expect to be center stage; but once we hit elementary school, some of the things everyone thought were so funny aren’t so cute anymore. We’ve grown up. As we grow, we find that it is much more appealing to others to compliment and sing your praises because they noticed the gift you are—not a present you need to open and parade in front of them.
Proverbs 16:18 says, First pride, then the crash—the bigger the ego, the harder the fall. Satan fell. In Isaiah 14:12-15 you can read how Satan went from the highest point (Heaven) to the lowest point (Hell). Notice the question, “How are you fallen from heaven?” And the question is answered:
“You have said in your heart: ‘I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God; I will also sit on the mount of the congregation On the farthest sides of the north; I will ascend above the heights of the clouds, I will be like the Most High.’”
Satan became so puffed up he thought he could do a better job than God—the One who created him.
The opposite motivation of love is to draw attention to self and expect others to serve you.
Love is not prideful. Love serves. A good friend of mine has set an example of service in my life. She goes the extra mile at all times. When she sees a need, she’s on it. If your tea glass is half full—she’s filling it. She has an open heart and home. She is willing to bless wherever and whenever she can.
A heart of service doesn’t mean you can’t have self-respect, and that you should lie down and let people walk all over you. I don’t believe you should allow others to take advantage of or abuse you, but serve and give yourself away because you love others.
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 1 Corinthians 13:4 NKJV